It is perfectly normal to experience frustration with romantic partners. If you don't, you might be a robot.

While experiencing anger, sadness, hopelessness, irritability or withdrawal in relationships is normal and at times expected, it's how you handle these reactions that determines if the relationship will succeed or fail (success is much more than simply being together for the sake of it). Luckily, concrete and highly effective tools in relationship science now exist to assist us with understanding and enjoying relationships more fully and with purpose-- an investment that can reduce stress, provide clarity and improve overall mental and physical health, wellbeing and satisfaction.

Find out how we reach these goals in therapy →  


Relationship Issues Addressed:

Unproductive communication

Emotional wounds

Issues of trust or betrayal

Depression or anxiety and relationships

Life transitions (school/career, relocating, buying a home, having children, children developmental changes affecting relationship, death and grief, empty-nesting)

Negotiating areas of conflict (stress, finances, housework, sex, electronic distractions, porn, relationships with in-laws)

Pre-marital counseling/ Contemplating commitment

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning identities in relationships 

Family, cultural or religious identities in relationships

Discernment counseling / Ambivalence therapy: determining whether your problems can be solved and whether you want to try

Breaking up/Divorce: Conscious uncoupling (requires a desire from both parties to process and heal emotional injuries from the relationship, often when children are involved)

Recovering from emotional or physical infidelity

Deciding on polyamory

Negotiating parenting styles

Merging a blended family

Planning a "no regrets" lifestyle to help your relationship thrive

Creating rituals of connection

Supporting each others' life dreams

Please note: Couple therapy is not suitable for those experiencing ongoing domestic violence or persistent emotional abuse. For these issues, individual therapy is strongly recommended. For help in these areas, the police, the Multnomah Country Crisis Line and Allies in Change for counseling and anger management are good resources.


Conflict is an opportunity to learn how to love each other better over time.