It is perfectly normal to experience frustration with romantic partners. If you don't, you might be a robot.
While experiencing anger, sadness, hopelessness, irritability or withdrawal in relationships is normal and at times expected, it's how you handle these reactions that determines if the relationship will succeed or fail (success is much more than simply being together for the sake of it). Luckily, concrete and highly effective tools in relationship science now exist to assist us with understanding and enjoying relationships more fully and with purpose-- an investment that can reduce stress, provide clarity and improve overall mental and physical health, wellbeing and satisfaction.
Relationship Issues Addressed:
Issues of trust or betrayal
Depression or anxiety and relationships
Life transitions (school/career, relocating, buying a home, having children, children developmental changes affecting relationship, death and grief, empty-nesting)
Negotiating areas of conflict (stress, finances, housework, sex, electronic distractions, porn, relationships with in-laws)
Pre-marital counseling/ Contemplating commitment
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning identities in relationships
Family, cultural or religious identities in relationships
Discernment counseling / Ambivalence therapy: determining whether your problems can be solved and whether you want to try
Breaking up/Divorce: Conscious uncoupling (requires a desire from both parties to process and heal emotional injuries from the relationship, often when children are involved)
Recovering from emotional or physical infidelity
Deciding on polyamory
Negotiating parenting styles
Merging a blended family
Planning a "no regrets" lifestyle to help your relationship thrive
Creating rituals of connection
Supporting each others' life dreams
Please note: Couple therapy is not suitable for those experiencing ongoing domestic violence or persistent emotional abuse. For these issues, individual therapy is strongly recommended. For help in these areas, the police, the Multnomah Country Crisis Line and Allies in Change for counseling and anger management are good resources.